Tuesday, June 5, 2012

Carese's Newborn Photo Shoot (#1)

Carese actually had two newborn photo sessions (I'm blessed with two friends who are great at photography!), but I have not gotten around to posting the photos...until now!

Here are the photos that my friend, Ruth D, took when Carese was 1 week old.

She looks like something a leprechaun left on the door step!

The hand on her back is her biggest sister, Jessica, trying to calm her back into deep sleep!

That's my hand - I was going to adjust her leg and Ruth D took a picture to test the lighting,
but we just love this photo as it shows how super tiny she was!


no baby fat on this skinny mini!


Oh so tiny - that is a regular size rose!



This is Daryl's favorite photo - looks like those photos of babies in the womb
And she doesn't really look "finished" since she had no baby fat
making this photo just that much more realistic
(it she had gone full term, she would have still been in my womb for another 2 weeks)



Which is your favorite photo???

Wednesday, May 30, 2012

New - Add My Button to Your Blog/Website!

With a little help from another blogging mom,  Tiffany,   I now have a button that you can use to link to my blog from your website or blog! (I couldn't get the html right for the code box - thanks Tiffany!)



12 Blessings


I'd love it if you could share my blog with your audience!

The code and example are in the top of the right hand column.  Just copy and past the code into a html widget on your blog and it should appear!

Thanks!

Friday, May 25, 2012

Another Great Grin!

I was taking photos of her in a Snap-EZ Multi-Size Baby Pocket Diaper,
and got this amazing photo of Carese smiling, but it looks like she's laughing!
I love this photo and thought you might too!

And now for a little homeschooling humor (homeschooled children are notorious for bad spelling...I like to think of it as phonetic spelling, but yeah, some kids get it, some kids really struggle). 

 Yesterday when I got up and logged onto the computer, the following was in my Google chat with my husband...an interchange between one of my children ("me"), who will remain unnamed, and him ("Daryl"):

Daryl: hello
7:27 AM me: hi dad this is Rachel no one elts is on the canputer
 Daryl: else
  hi
7:28 AM computer
  you were kinda close
  Mom up?
7:29 AM me: okay. I have to get off now. I do not know
  obout mom
 Daryl: about
  go do a spelling lesson
7:30 AM me: give me a brake
 Daryl: break
 me: okay
7:31 AM give me a break
 Daryl: better
7:32 AM me: I have to go to now but I can her mom
  by
7:33 AM Daryl: hear................. bye


Thursday, May 24, 2012

Goofy Grin to put a Smile on Your Face!

I just couldn't wait until my next full blog post - Jessica got this photo of Carese during a smile fest!
Isn't that the cutest, goofiest grin ever???

Plus a special announcement!
My Daughter, Rachel, has launched her own home business selling hand crafted items:


Wednesday, May 23, 2012

2 Months Old and a Happy Momma!

My super happy smile!
Carese turned 2 months old last week.  On her second month's birthday she finally reached the birth weight and height  of our largest baby, Jonathan, exactly.  She weighed in at 8 pounds 13 ounces and 21 inches long.  She was 5% for height and weight no the charts, and her growth curve is good.  The pediatrician was very pleased with her growth!  




I'm number one!
Carese is wearing her "going home" outfit at 2 months
 and swimming in it!
Carese is now having smile fests!  We love these.  She's having them about twice a day, and she'll give us smile after smile for several minutes.  They are so cute!  It even looks like she might be the first to have a real, middle of the cheek, dimple!  


She has officially outgrown all but two preemie clothes.  She is wearing newborn size if it doesn't have feet, and 0 - 3 months for sleepers, but she pretty much swims in them.  She is just fitting in our Snap-EZ Multi-Size Baby Pocket Diapers now, yet still fits in the old smalls with plenty of room for growing still.  Because she has taken 2 months to grow into the smallest current Snap-EZ Pocket Diaper, I am going to start producing a Snap-EZ Multi-Size Infant Pocket Diapers that will fit babies from 4 pounds up to around 11 pounds!  I am very excited about this.
brighter eyes!


So, I still haven't gotten to why I'm a happy momma yet (although all of the above does make me happy of  course) - I'm happy because I had my appointment with the orthopedic surgeon today and he says I don't need knee surgery...not yet anyway! 


Don't mess with my binky!
I am allowed to begin to bear weight as I can without pain, slowly working my way back to full weight bearing!  I am to continue to do the physical therapy (he suggested doing the exercises 1 - 2 times a day) and icing my knee 2 - 3 times a day.  If I'm still struggling with pain, I have an appointment in 6 weeks to have an injection of a cortizone type of medication to reduce inflamation.  If I'm feeling no or little pain, I can begin to do regular exercise (like volleyball!) starting in July!  Yeah!

He also said I can begin with a recumbent bike anytime as long I do not experience pain while biking!  PTL!!!!!

I'm so happy I could jump, but I'd probably hurt my knee so I won't!  LOL!



I'll leave you with some photo highlights from Mother's Day, which also made me a happy mother!


Esther playing with her rag dolls and giraffe!

Jason get's to hold Carese for the first time, and she was so good for him!

Jeremy and Esther waiting for the wonderful dinner to begin!

Baby toes sneaking through the knit of her cocoon

Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Life on "The Shelf"

This comes to you from "On The Shelf." A place that few want to find, but so many can learn lessons that can not be learned anywhere else.  Being "On The Shelf" is where you are when God works in your life to teach you to find your worth in Him and not in what you can accomplish.  My shelf time started 7 months ago, but really intensified after my recent C section.



Recovery from a C section is not a walk in the park - especially from an emergency C section!  Did you know that they only have minutes to get the baby out after a general anesthesia is given to the mother, or the baby will get the general and be born unconscious?  That means that they have do much of the surgery prep before the mother is unconscious (this can be (and for me it was) very painful).  This also means that once the mother is unconscious, they get to the baby as quickly as they can - for me this meant a lot of bruising.  Also, because you have a general, you do not have an epidural/spinal so you are not numb...at all...ever.  And because you are unconscious they can't give you morphine until you are awake.  This means you wake up from the surgery with no pain meds on board. This was more pain than I had ever experienced in my life - I now have a new "10" for maximum pain.  So recovery was slow and painful (if I stayed on top of the pain with meds, I still had pains when doing things like turning over in bed, coughing and sneezing).   Add to that we found out that I am allergic to sutures - I had mini abscesses all along the incision - not cool at all.  But it was all worth it to have Carese here, safe and sound...our miracle baby!

After 3 weeks I was finally able to manage with only Ibuprophen (prescription strength).  At 4 weeks we tried my first Walmart shopping trip.  I wore out very fast and ended up waiting on a bench for the girls to finish the shopping.  Then on the way out I mentioned to the girls that I still felt all loosey goosey in my hips and knees (from the hormone "relaxin" which prepares your body for birth).  When I got into our truck, my right knee made a snapping sound and hurt a little.  One week later I could barely put weight on that knee so I went to the doctor - they said I had a torn meniscus, gave me a knee brace and referred me for physical therapy, planning to do an MRI later if it didn't respond well to PT.  The therapists did some tests on me and determined that I did not have a miniscus tear, but a probable ACL tear (definitely a worse injury than a meniscus tear). So I went back to the doctor and requested an MRI so we would know for sure what we were dealing with.  After over a week waiting for the insurance to approve it, I got my MRI last Thursday.



Friday we got the verdict - it's damage to the medial articular cartilage (the cartilage at the end of the femur, on the inside of my knee).  There is a "defect" that goes through to the bone in one area, plus the overall surface is irregular and thinning and there are marginal osteophytes (commonly called bone spurs and "is most common from the onset of arthritis - great!  I'm to young for arthritis!) at the edges of the cartilage.  These types of problems are what eventually lead to knee replacement, not good!   I was at the therapists office when I got the call, but only the assitants were still in. They recommended that I use a crutch over the weekend to reduce weight bearing.  I did some research and found that "RICE" is recommended for this injury - Rest, Ice, Compression and Elevation - so I worked on those over the weekend and found some relief (Thursday night after shopping at Costco I was in bad pain - an 8 on my new pain scale, now I knew why).  Finally on Monday I heard from the doctor's office - no weight bearing and they wanted me on two crutches.  So for over 4 weeks I've been walking on this knee - probably causing the irregular surface problems in there from shrapnel out of the hole I put in there at the original time of injury.  Tuesday I went back to PT and got to talk with him about my diagnosis...he let me know that an ACL tear would have been better.  He has advised me to get a referral to a orthopedic surgeon to get surgery (microfracture surgery ) to repair the defect before it gets larger and possibly deal with the other two problems in there.  We had to change some of my exercises, and they added a new one since I can't bear weight on that leg now.  It started to sink in when one of the assistants came over and said to me - "I'm so sorry about your knee"...this was someone who thought I had an ACL tear - that really didn't make me feel very good about this at all!

So, I am doing very well on recovering from my C section, but it has definitely been complicated by the knee injury.  My kids are having to help their invalid (I like to say in-valid) mother still - I can't even carry Carese around unless I have her in a front pack...can't carry laundry...

Way back in October, when I had been down with a cold for 3 weeks, I commented to one of my closest friends that I hated being laid up and that I felt that God was bringing this into my life to teach me to learn something, but I wasn't sure what is was.  I was hoping that this learning session would be over soon....little did I know that I would still be laid up 7 months later with no quick end in site.  I went from cold to worse cold to sinus infection after sinus infection, to limited activity due to high blood pressure/high cardiac output, to recovering from a C section and now a knee injury.  I've learned to delegate more than ever in my life, to be content with less than perfect housework, to not jump in there and do it for them when they are not doing a "mother's level cleaning" but to talk them through what they missed or leave it alone).  I've also learned to appreciate good health and I'm hoping to have it back again someday.  But I think this time of trials is more that just about me - this is developing many Christ-like qualities and practical skills in my family.  They are learning to be helpful, considering others before themselves, learning to be diligent workers.  I have not been able to do any housework (except for my laundry, and now I even need help with that) for 8 months, and they have had to step up to the plate and do everything.  The tasks are spread out, even down to Elizabeth, our 6 year old.  They are not working all day, but they do have more chores than ever before.  They are doing a great job.

But more importantly, I am learning to find my worth outside what I can accomplish.  I have always found worth in what I can do...Daryl has called me his Amazon Woman for years.  I loved to tackled big projects, and would recite to Daryl when he got home what I had done that day.  Now, I'm happy if I have my laundry cared for, Carese fed and clothed.  That's about all I can physically accomplish these days, but it has to be enough.  I need to let the rest go and find my worth in what I can do for my family in non-physical ways - spend time with them, play games, read together (I need to start doing this), watch them play and be there for questions, advice, and listening to their stories.  But most importantly, I need to find my worth in Christ and what He has and is doing for me.  I am His and He is mine.  That should be all I need.  Even if I were bedridden for the rest of my life, I would have value because Christ deemed my life valuable - so valuable that He died on the cross for me before I could even lift a finger.  This is a hard lesson and I'm only grasping a fraction of it...I know I have much to learn and much to unlearn after a lifetime of being influenced by our world that only values beauty and great accomplishments in people.  So if I come to mind, please pray that I would be content in the new place He has placed me (discouragement seems to be lurking, just waiting for my weak moments to come rushing in to devour me). Also that I would learn these lessons well and that He would get the Glory and I would grow in grace under His loving Hand.

Monday, May 7, 2012

Life with a newborn...again!

Having a new baby in the house never gets old!  They are so precious, helpless and snuggable!  Carese is getting fairly spoiled (she has yet to sleep in her new bassinet!), but in my opinion you can't spoil a newborn!  There's plenty of time later to have them sleep by themselves and hang out playing by themselves!

One of the biggest problems in a large family when a new baby arrives is getting access to the aforementioned baby!  Everybody wants to hold the baby!  This time around all the girls love holding her, which was to be expected, but the boys love to hold her as well.  I have decided that I need a "Take A Number" thingy in order to keep straight who gets to hold her next!
Here are some photos of some of the resident baby holders:
Daniel - I love this photo!

Elizabeth and Carese - looks like a baby doll!
The preemie cocoon was created just for Carese by my dear friend, Ruth D
 as she was way too small to use her newborn one!

Reuben - think he's enjoying this?

Rachel with all the little girls!

Jessica - #1 baby holder and helper!
Carese outside in the stroller for the first time!
We are just now beginning to find a new normal.  My recovery has been slow and was complicated by my injuring my knee just getting into our truck.  The doctor said the I was able to injure my knee with so little trauma due to the hormones still in my body from pregnancy making my joints loose.  They believe I have torn my ACL, but we won't know for sure until I have an MRI. We are waiting for insurance to approve the MRI, and I am going to physical therapy twice a week for now.  Just when I was beginning to want to do things around the house, I'm back to being nearly useless.  God is working on me this year - and on our family - He's basically put me on the shelf and teaching me to find my sufficiency and value in Him and not in what I can accomplish every day!



A few weeks ago I was able to attend our local Great Cloth Diaper Change as a sponsor and participant!  I changed Carese's diaper and Jessica had Esther.  So we participated in setting another world record!  A fellow participant took this photo of me there and sent it to me - not too bad for 4 weeks post partum and 10 days after injuring my knee!
Carese 1 week old







Having a baby that is 3 weeks early and small for gestational age has it's challenges.  She started out at 4 pounds 14 oz, and had nothing to lose - literally skin and muscles, but not an ounce of fat.  She could not afford to lose any weight, so we had to use formula while I attempted to get her to latch and pumped to bring in my milk supply.  Since she was so tiny, her mouth was also tiny, so she just couldn't latch, even with a nursing shield.  So we fed her my milk and formula via a bottle for the first four weeks.  


Carese at 3 weeks old

By then she was able to nurse using the nipple shield, and she had gained enough weight that we could push things and we stopped allowing a bottle for a week.  She started out that week at 7 lbs 5 oz.  and ended the week at 7 lbs 1 oz.  But then she turned a corner and started gaining slowly. I had also started adding a small amount to each feeding using a finger feeding technique that uses a tube to get the milk into the baby's mouth while they suck on your finger.  After a week of that we were able to reintroduce the bottle for the extra feedings.  I had enough milk, she just tuckered out at breast feeding before she was getting enough milk to gain weight.






Carese is getting a double chin!
She's 6 weeks in this photo

She gained slowly at first but she was starting to sport a double chin by then as seen in this photo! (7 bs 5 oz at 6 wks), but then at 6 weeks she started gaining quickly and at 7 1/2 weeks was up to 8 pounds 1 oz!   She is eating more at each feeding and has been able to nurse with out the shield for 4 days now.













Carese 7 weeks, 5 days old
8 pounds 2 oz
21 inches logn
She has not only grown in weight, but she has grown in length!  She measured 18 3/4 inches at birth and now measures 21 inches!  She's grown out of her preemie clothes and is now wearing NB, but a few of the sleepers are getting too short!

5 days old, 4 lbs 13 oz 19 inches long!


Here are two  photos of her in her "coming home" Carter's preemie size outfit when she was 5 days old, and now - she's grown a lot, but she's still tiny for an almost 2 month old:


Carese finally grew into her newborn cocoon!
It only took her 7 weeks!





Here she is all snuggled in her newborn cocoon - my dear friend, Ruth D (see the Doyle blog in my blog roll) knitted this while I was pregnant, but when she was born, we knew she wouldn't fit in it, so she quickly made a smaller one (as seen in the photo above where Elizabeth is holding Carese).  Now she has outgrown the preemie size one and fits nicely in this one!












Elizabeth is letting Esther sleep in her bed to help her
 learn to be in a big bed!


Esther enjoying time outside
doesn't she look like a  precious moments figurine?

Above, you can see Esther growing into a big girl - sleeping in a big bed and playing outside with her brothers.  She loves to play outside!  She's talking more, putting on her own coat, running pretty fast, doing small steps without help!  She's also loving being a big sister and sings to Carese as well as petting her and asking to hold her too!






Monday, April 30, 2012

Announcing Blessing #12 - Carese Faith!


Carese's birth is a most unique story, at least for us - we have had 4 uncomplicated hospital births, and 7 home births (the last one being very complicated).  We first had a hint that she would be born early during a discussion with my OB on March 2nd.  She explained that my hypertension and high cardiac output would cause the placenta to have diminished function much earlier than a normal pregnancy and that they wouldn't allow me to go past 39 weeks, and if Carese showed any signs of stress that they would induce immediately.
 The next Thursday evening I had contractions for 5 hours, 2 1/2 minutes apart, so we headed in to the hospital.  They continued right up until we got to the doors of the Childbirth Center.  I had a few while I was there, but they were farther apart and not nearly a strong.  While on the monitors, Carese's heartrate took a few dips, but they weren't terribly concerned since it didn't look like I was in "real labor" to them.  So we headed home in the wee hours of the morning.The next day was my regular 36 week OB appt with a biophysical profile (BPP) scheduled.  
Carese did not pass the breathing portion of the test, so they sent me down the hall for a non-stress test, which she passed, barely.  Both showed that she was not as active as she normally is, and the BPP also showed that her amniotic fluid had decreased to a very low level.  The OB told us that it was time to plan to induce labor as Carese would do better being born early than staying inside with a compromised placenta.  They planned for me to start the induction that evening.But that evening, the beds were full, and they were full again in the morning.  
But that evening they had a bed and we headed in around 6 pm to get things going.  The first plan of action was to do a treatment that would ripel my cervix, making it more favorable for other forms of induction.  They placed the hormone, monitored me for contractions and Carese for heartrate, and then pretty much left us alone for the rest of the night.  They removed the hormone late the next morning and found that nothing much had happened, so the next step was to insert a foley catheter which would manually dilate my cervix.  Once in place it would slowly do it's job over the next 12 hours.
When they removed that late Sunday night, I was dilated 3 - 4 cm!  How exciting!  At this point they decided to take me off the monitors and sleep, and I was to let them know if I started having contractions on my own.Since I was already dilated to 4 cm, and in previous labors I could go from 4 to complete in just a couple of hours, we decided to have our doula, Carolynn, come and join us for the night.  We had a great time - didn't rest much, but got to know each other and had a very memorable "sleep over" like night.  The dr had planned to start me on pitocin at 5 am if I had not started to labor on my own, so that was started early the next morning.  They started at a very low level and planning to increase it very slowly, trying to get just enough in to get labor going on it's own.
Around 8 am, the new doctor came on duty and determined that Carese had been doing great (constant monitoring) and that my body just wasn't ready to go into labor.  He wanted to do anouthg BPP and see if her fluid levels had increased, with the possibility of sending me home for some rest, to try again in a couple of days.  So the pitocin was shut off and I was off for a BPP.  It did show that her amniotic fluid level was better, and the dr checked me and decided that my cervix and Carese's head were not optimal for breaking my water, and that it was best that I go home and get some rest.  
We went home, but we were very  concerned about my being home so far dilated..didn't want to have a fast labor and not make it to the hospital, so I scheduled my follow up appt for the next morning.The dr who had attended me all weekend was very surprised to see me in her office Tuesday morning!  
After reviewing everything, she decided that the best thing was to continue the induction as soon as possible.  So I was sent over to the hospital and admitted that afternoon.This time they started the pitocin at a higher level and had it going up faster.  I began to have contractions, but they were not terribly strong.  Our oldest 3 daughters had joined us around dinner time.  
Around 9 pm we decided to allow the dr to break my water to facilitate getting labor to kick into gear.  The breaking of the water went uneventfully, with very little fluid coming out.  I then walked the halls for a while and then rocked in the rocking chair.  When I got up (this was about 2 1/2 hours after they had broken my water) there was a sudden gush of fluid.  I went to the bathroom to change my clothes, and then was going to walk the halls again, but decided to watch Carese's heartbeat through a couple of contractions.  The nurse was watching as well.  He heart rate dropped down into the 80s during the next two contractions and was slow in going back up again and when I stood up, I felt a pressure that I had not felt before, so she decided she'd better check and see what was going on.  
She found what she thought she would find - Carese's cord had gone next to her head and was being clamped off during contractions.  She told me to get on my left side and sent for the doctor.  The doctor confirmed her fears, that we were dealing with a prolapsed cord.  This meant that Carese needed to be born right now, but I was still only 4 cm dilated, so she called for a code purple and everything started happening very quickly.  Carolynn began to pray with me as we waited for them to take me away.  I held Daryl's hand briefly as well, but everything was going so fast there wasn't much time to think.While the doctor held Carese's head off of my cervix and the cord, people came to wheel me, bed and everything, to the OR.  Off we went down the hallway (not exactly a modest position to say the least).  Very quickly we were in the OR and the doctor removed her hand and I  was told to climb as quickly as I could onto the other bed.  Once I laid down again, the nurse took over holding Carese's head off the cord.  The next few minutes are a blur of pain as they prepped me for surgery, with an oxygen mask on. Once everything was ready, I was put to sleep via general anesthesia (they can't put the mother out until everything is ready as they have to get the baby out before the general anesthesia reaches the baby). 
While I was out, Daryl, Carolynn and the girls were notified that Carese had been born (just 5 minutes after I left the room), and was crying - a good sign for a baby born via cesarian!  About 20 minutes later Daryl was allowed to go see Carese, and then Rachel and Jessica got to go see her, and then Carolynn took Rachel back to see her.  She was laying on the isolette just looking around - they got a few good photos as well.
About 40 minutes after she was born, I began to wake up.  Before I could even open my eyes I was asking questions - "What was her apgar scores?" They told me 7 and 9 (very good for a baby born C section), "What did she weigh?" I was told she weight 4 pounds 14 oz. "How is she doing?"  She was doing fine and should be brought to me soon! "How long is she?" I was told that she was 18 3/4 inches long. "Does she have Down Syndrome?" I was told she did not.  I asked several other questions and then Carese's pediatrician came and told me that she was perfect and healthy, but very long and skinny.  
Soon Daryl arrived and I got to see her!  She was sooo tiny!  I held her and was amazed at how tiny and perfect she was.  Carolynn was soon there as well, and she helped me to get Carese to latch.  After a few minutes it was time to leave the recovery room and go to a room on the floor.  The next three days were spent recovering from the C section and getting to know our sweet Carese Faith.  She was a very good baby while we were in the hospital, only crying to eat.  We spent a lot of time talking about how amazing it had been to see God care for us and bring Carese into this world, safe and sound.  We were completely amazed that our tiny baby was so healthy that she could room in with us, only spending a few hours the first day under the lights to get warmed up.
God preserved her life through her high risk pregnancy and through a life threatening delivery - He has a story that He's telling through her life, and it will be exciting to see what He will be doing in and through her.



Friday, February 24, 2012

The Winter of Learning

Esther has gotten so used to her breathing treatments
(she's on her third upper respiratory infection for the winter)
that she'll hold it to her face most of the time!
It has been a while since I have been able to blog, and there is good reason!  This winter we have suffered more illness than in any other year I can remember.  I am just not getting over another sinus infection (I had one in Oct/Nov/Dec for 7 weeks) but this time it also included bronchitis.  This round has already lasted nearly 7 weeks and I'm still not completely over it.  Much of this  time my head was just too foggy to think clearly enough to blog, and the rest of the time was taken up with caring for my sick kids, as I was not the only one sick, in fact, everyone in the family has gotten at least 1 of the 3 colds that has ran through the family since the beginning of December!







This has been a huge test for all of us - to get the essentials of daily life in a large family accomplished even with a diminished task force, and to do it all with little or no help from me (I am also on activity limitations due to my pregnancy/hypertension).  Overall it has gone very well and the kids are a learning new chores and Dayton and Elizabeth have graduated to doing chores that they never had before.  While the work is not always what I would call "properly completed" it is manageable and has worked sufficiently during our illnesses - so well that I can truly say that our home has been running smoother that at any other time that I have been under the weather, and maybe even better than when I'm not!





Severely limited electronics leads to creative play!

My biggest struggle has been with being so limited in what I can do, and being too sick to do it even if I wasn't limited!  But I know that nothing that happens in my life is without purpose, and this trial is directly from the loving hand of my heavenly Father and it's for my good and His glory.  So I have been pondering what He is trying to teach me that I have not been learning (second long lasting sinus infection in one winter...).  I can not read God's mind, but I did have the thought that maybe God brought this trial into my life right now to make it easier for me to rest under the restrictions that my doctor has placed on me - if I'm too sick to do anything, it doesn't bother me nearly as much that I can't do them!  I can also see that this time has been very good for my children - they are learning to serve!  They are so helpful when I need something done for me and I rarely get a negative response - some of them will even do what I ask when they've heard me ask other for help!  This is also helping my older girls to learn to take more responsibility on a daily basis and the chores that I have for them are definitely teaching them and preparing them to be able to manage their own homes someday!
I can knit even when I'm sick - here's 1 of the matching
hat/booties sets that I have finished!

I have had several friends ask how we are doing chores now - we did a huge change in how we are doing chores starting at the first of the year.  So here's a rundown of how we have delegated chores:

This is the first ever sock that I knitted -
This fits Esther and I'm making matching ones
for Carese now!
The three oldest girls rotate through having complete responsibility for the following three chores - dishes, cooking and laundry.

The three boys (12, 10 and 8) are responsible for keeping portions of the house tidy/clean and we divided it up as follows - living room, school room, kitchen + bathrooms.

Elizabeth is responsible for the stairs and hallway.  And Esther is the little helper that is shared as she is willing to help, and the kids love to have her help them!

I have set up daily chores, which are done every morning before school, 4 o'clock chores which is basically tidying up before their daddy comes home.  They also have weekly chores, mostly done on Saturday, which are a more in depth tidying/cleaning of the rooms they have or work in.  And we also have monthly chores which are done on the first Saturday of the month.

Here's the complete list for each "jurisdiction"


Jurisdiction - Dishes
Load Dishwasher
Wash Big Dishes
Wipe dishes Counter
Clean Sinks
Put away ALL clean dishes
Wipe/Set/Clear Table
chairs cleaned as needed
keep stock of dishwashing detergents

Saturdays
switch drying towel
scrub sink/back splash
clean window & sill

1st Saturday
wipe out dish cupboards
clean cupboard under sink

Jurisdiction - Laundry
Sort all Dirty Clothes
(girls/boys/towels/kitchen)
Sort all Clean clothes
give to person who owns them
sweep floor
garbage
clean sink
keep stock of laundry detergents

Saturdays
Clear counter
organize hooks
tidy cleaning closet

1st Saturday
wash window/wipe off top of
washer/dryer
clear out behind w/d
cobwebs

Jurisdiction -Meals
Prepare all meals
plan menu with Mom
clear/wipe all counters after every meal
put away leftovers (use them for meals)
clean 1 appliance/day
keep list of items needed to purchase

Saturdays
clean stovetop
wipe out bread cupboard

1st Saturday
clean inside fridge
clean inside microwaves

Jurisdiction - Kitchen/Bathrooms
sweep all floors
mop kitchen everyday
counters/sinks cleared daily
toilet paper stocked/available
hand towels on racks everyday
Keep stock of toilet paper/cleaning supplies

Saturdays
clean 1 bathroom
(tub/shower/toilet/window/mirrors)

1st Saturday
clean under sinks/behind mirrors
wash cabinet doors (bathrooms too)
cobwebs
wash doors/light switches

Jurisdiction – Livingroom
floors swept
tables cleared
couches/chairs cleared
pillows/blankets in place

Saturdays
damp mop as needed
sweep off couches
wipe livingroom tables

1st Saturday
cobwebs
wash windows/doors/light switches



Jurisdiction - Schoolroom
sweep floor
tables tidy/clear
bookshelves tidy
coat closet neat
chairs at desks
Saturdays
vacuum
wipe play table

1st Saturday
wash windows/doors/light switches
cobwebs

Jurisdiction - Stairs/Hallway
clear everything
banister cleared

Saturdays
clean banister
vacuum all carpet
1st Saturday
cobwebs
doors/light switches cleaned


In our daily routine the children are also responsible for making their beds, tidying their bedrooms and having a quite time before they come down to breakfast.  We also have a buddy system, where the older girls are assigned a little one to help with chores and other things like getting ready for church and helping them get their food at meals.

We also have incentives!  If they accomplish all that was required of them in a given week, they can get "Saturday Candy".  We purchase the packages of small candy bars (8/$1) and we get enough that each child gets three of these miniature candy bars.  Also, if they do their chores the best for their group they get to choose which chore they get next (we switch once a month) with the option of keeping their current chores.  And, if they have done a very poor job on the chores, they get to keep their chores until they learn to do them right!

So there you have it.  I hope that this information is helpful to someone.

And lastly,  I must say that during our illnesses, we have not accomplished everything on these lists, but stuck to the essentials.  Now that I'm recovering and none of the children are sick, I am hopeful that over the next week we can go through the lists and recover lost ground!

Wednesday, January 4, 2012

New Year, New Pace

The holidays are over and we had a great time.  We had to simplify how we celebrated due to my pregnancy (more on this later), but we were able to do all the things that our family really enjoys.  The kids went caroling with our church, went hunting for our Christmas tree (we think we had the best tree ever this year!)...

 ...baked and decorated sugar cookies with friends...
oh, the anticipation!
this is serious business!



 ...Rebekah came up with the idea of making popcorn ball snowmen - complete with candy cane arms, Reece's Peanut Butter Cup Hats, mini M&M eyes and smile!  They tasted as good as they looked...

and a few of the kids also made gingerbread houses and graham cracker houses.


This year we also did a few things we haven't done in the past!  Jeremy, Jessica and I joined the Lynden Choral Society to sing The Messiah!  I loved the rehearsals, and after getting past being overwhelmed with the complexity and sheer volume of the music, they really enjoyed the entire experience!  I was only able to make it to about half the rehearsals due to my sinus infection (more on that later too), and was unable to perform, but it was still a highlight for my year.  It has been many, many years since I had the opportunity to sing in a choir, especially to sing challenging music while praising my Lord and Savior!  I was even able to increase my singing range by 3 notes!  I am so looking forward to next year!  I was able to attend one of the performances and it was beautiful.  The Messiah music can bring me to tears at anytime, but due to the disappointment of not being able to be up there with my friends and family caused me to cry through most of it.  I was singing in my heart though!

 Elizabeth turned 6 years old on my 48th birthday - 12/12/11.  Next year we will have an extra special birthday as it will be 12/12/12!

This year I was able (barely) to direct our church's choir!  We have not had a choir for over 3 years, and we were unsure if there was enough interest - there sure was!  We had nearly 60 members!  About half had never sung in a choir, and over half were junior high/high school age.  What they lacked in experience they made up for in paying attention, practicing at home and regular/punctual attendance!  I could not have asked for a better choir!  We were able to perform three times - twice for church services, and once at the Light House Mission!  I have to give all the credit to God - as I was so sick through most of the practice season (we only had 5 practices that were less than an hour long), but He blessed our work, and enabled me to be there for every scheduled practice (I did have to direct sitting down for one!).  I am also looking forward to doing this again next year!

On our way home from a family gathering in Lynnwood, Rebekah counted almost 400 homes decorated with lights!  We also started singing Christmas Carols in the van as we were nearing Lynden to practice the songs the children were going to sing at the Sunday School Christmas Program.  As we drove through Lynden, we tried to carol to people on the street by opening our windows - it was a nice idea, but we only saw two people out and about!  We'll have to try it again next year earlier in the evening in a busier part of town!


Jeremy and Jason helped us "pick" our candy
machine locks so we could get out money out!

Jeremy and Jason came home "Christmas Adam" - a term I heard for the first time this year, meaning that Adam was created before Eve, so the night before Christmas Eve is Christmas Adam!  They had dinner with us and we enjoyed playing games throughout the evening!  
I enjoyed playing scrabble with my oldest kids!

We were given a pool table recently and had finally got it all set up just days before, and it saw a lot of use by all!  God is so good to bless us with something we have wanted for so long, but could not afford! 


 They spent the night and we celebrated all our family traditions on Saturday since I would be directing the choir Sunday morning.

Saturday started off with the children all joining us in our bedroom for opening the goody bags - small gifts and special candies:

 This year we were a little more practical than usual and we got all the children insulated straw cups (they look like the kind you get when you have a smoothy/frappacino, but are sturdy and reusable!).

They were a hit and are getting constant us as water glasses, saving on dirty dishes too!  We then all moved downstairs and tried something new for breakfast - quiche (one with bacon, one with sausage), biscuits and orange juice - everyone helping with something.  We all like it so much we might make that a new tradition!

After breakfast, the big boys helped with clean up and then we spent a few hours enjoying their new toys and playing pool, ping pong and cards.  I got the turkey started, and then took a much needed nap.  Once I got up, each of the children helped with one of the meal dishes, and then we sat down to a sumptuous Turkey dinner with all the trimmings!  Everyone helped clean up and we spent the rest of the day playing together.
Dayton turned 8 years old on 12/20 - he was a very happy boy!

Now to tell you about the things I hinted at earlier in this post.  Starting in late October I came down with a bad cold, that turned into a sinus infection, then bronchitis.  I endured two rounds of antibiotics, which knocked the bronchitis, but did not kick the sinus infection.  The day before Thanksgiving I passed out while reading on the computer!  I was rushed to the ER, and they found that the sinus infection had spread to my ears, and that I had passed out due to dizziness (I had not felt dizzy) from the inflammation in my ears.  Sounds simple, but it was very scary for us all.  the ER doctor told me to REST, drink lots of fluids and put me on two new medications.  I was also directed to have a followup appointment with an ENT, which I did, and he changed my medications and I finally kicked the sinus infection about a week later.  That is why I had to direct sitting down, not looking at my music - I got dizzy very easily for about a week!  I don't think I have ever appreciated being healthy like I did then!

During my illness, the OB noticed that my blood pressure and  pulse were elevated, so on my next appointment, they check it, hoping that it would have returned to normal and that it was caused by the medications I was on, but that was not the case.  They were still elevated and this was cause for concern. So she put me on a baby dose of beta blocker (lowers BP, pulse and cardiac output) and scheduled for me to go to the University of Washington to see a specialist at the mother/infant prenatal clinic - a hypertension specialist.  This happened the day before Christmas Adam.  Daryl was able to take the day off and go with me - and this was good as we learned so much about what was going on with my condition.  They used a very unique (old - 1970 era) ultrasound machine to measure the blood flowing in and out of my heart.  They found that my cardiac output was double what it should be - and that after a week on medications to lower it!  Needless to say this was disconcerting!

The Dr met with us and told us that this is possible indication that I might develop preeclampsia - a potentially devastating pregnancy related illness.  He also said that if they give me too much medication and make my numbers looks great, it could cause Carece to not grow at ideal rates (intrauterine growth retardation), but if the doses are too low  I could develop preecplamsia.  So, since my blood pressure looks very nice if I am lying down/resting, they kept me on the same dose, but I need to take it easy, and rest with my feet up at least an hour in the late morning, and at least two hours in bed in the afternoon.  I also have to not do anything that causes my pulse to be elevated (no exercise beyond walking).

Since then I have been a very good girl, and my blood pressure has gone down - if I do not leave home.  So we are limiting my trips away from home to OB/pregnancy appointments and Sunday morning service.   I am experiencing an early nesting instinct, but I figure that's good as I'll probably have my activities further restricted as we get closer (I was on bed rest for the last month or so for the last two pregnancies).

Starting this weekend, we started an entire new chore system, set up so that, if needed, I will not have to do any housework at all and the housework will still get done.  This has freed me up to rest, and tackle small projects here and there.

So with the New Year, I am living life at a new pace - slow and steady, resting as much as possible.  So far everything is going very well, and the house is looking better than usual!  Business (Snap-EZ) was slow, as usual, during December, so that helped as well.  We'll see how things go as business has already picked up since Christmas, but my girls are more than capable of doing all the labor, I just need to manage what needs to be done and when.

In order to make this work, I have also set up a little area for myself in the living room - from my recliner I can reach two tables, use a laptop (mine died last year, but my son, Jeremy, has loaned me his), care for Esther (meds, diaper changes, therapy/preschool,), access my crochet and knitting projects, answer the phone and play scrabble or cards!  Daryl set up our WiFi so I have access to the business computer and it's laptop, so I can do almost all business related things from here as well!  I also keep trail mix and a large water bottle handy at all times! Also, I can hear almost everything that goes on in the house from here, so I don't miss as much as when I am working from the computer upstairs...I'm seriously thinking about making this a permanent place for me to work - I'll just need to get myself a laptop once the business pays off the last little bit of debt to celebrate!

I hope you have a blessed New Year!